Thai-Farang relationships are a common a sight in Bangkok. The number of interracial relationships in Thailand seems to grow every year. Even in the outskirts and suburbian area you can almost be certain of seeing some foreign guy hand in hand with his Thai girlfriend. So why is it that so many Thai girls seem to go for a Western man instead of a Thai guy that she would have a lot more in common with? Most foreigners in Thailand don’t even really understand Thai culture, don’t speak the language and don’t understand Thai women! Are Thai women really attracted to foreign men or is it really about money?
There are in fact many reasons why a Thai girl would go for a foreigner. Let’s take a look at some reasons that I think are common. Most Thai ladies I have talked often mention money, fidelity, physical chemistry and worldliness. Some may be only interested in one of those or all of them, but it’s a good starting point in figuring out why Thai women end up dating white guys.
Some Thai girls place the most importance on the financial stability or even wealth that a foreigner brings with him. These girls are mostly interested in improving their material posseisions and financial security. She may be a go-go dancer from a poor village in Isaan and wants money to send to her parents or she may be middle-class university student who wants a rich sugar daddy to sponsor her parties, clothes and cellphone upgrades. She is looking for an older, wealthy (or at least generous) guy who understands that being with a young attractive girl as an older man isn’t going to be free. She is easy to spot if she is working in a bar or go-go, but she can also be found on social networks and dating sites and she may have many foreing ‘friends’ already. If you are fine with this type of relationship then a the best way to win her over is a dinner at a fancy restaurant or VIP seats at an event and then a quick (and expensive) shopping spree to one of Bangkok’s many malls.
Thai men are notorios for their extramarital affairs. This is most common for the lower class guys. A lot of Thai girls share a similar story of falling in love at a young age with a hometown hero who then ditched her when he found out she was pregnant. Many end up in Bangkok sending money back and rarely see their child. This girl is very often looking for a decent, loyal foreigner who will be willing to settle down with her and support her and her child. In return, she is ready to be the best wife she can be; loyal, caring and dutiful. She is willing to overlook a substantial age difference as long as she thinks he will be true to her and stick with her for the long run. She is often found in bars, pubs and restaurants frequented by foreigners or on the internet on a dating site like ThaiLoveLinks or ThaiLoveLines. She isn’t going to jump into bed on the first date, but she will probably make a great girlfriend or wife.
Some Thai girls (many?) just think white guys are cute. She has grown up with MTV and David Beckham and now she has some sort of reverse yellow fever. She is often early to mid twenties with a good education and has maybe even studied abroad where she caught the taste for muscle bound westerners. This kind of girl is most often seen in trendy bars and caffes or in young, hip areas where foreigners hang out like Kao San area. Forget about getting with this girl if you’re an older guy (unless she also looks for a sugar daddy). Get her hooked by sporting the latest fashion, dancing, keeping the booze coming and partying it up. This is all physical.
I’ve found that most middle-class Thai women who date western guys almost always say that they enjoy dating them because they feel like they are respected more and have more freedom of expression. She is tired of dating Thai men who expect her just to be a pretty, cute wife void of any personality and opinion. She enjoys the chance to express herself and try new things without being judged in a rigid Thai society. She is looking for an educated, intelligent foreign man who will show her the world and bring her along with him as they explore life together. You meet her at a trendy café or bar, maybe in a hotel lobby or even on the internet, but she isn’t going to chase you. Impress her by showing your drive and ambition without bragging.
As you see, there are many reasons why a Thai girl would want to date a foreign guy and money is definitely not the only reason. So, if you want to meet a nice Thai girl, think about who you are and what kind of lady would be attracted to you. Are you the type happy to settle for a quiet countryside life or are you looking for a partner not only in bed but someone who can keep her own in a conversation. Do you want a string of flings with girls from Kao San clubs? Regardless, get out of the bars and gogos and start exploring the other side of Thailand